In the beginning, of the relationship, the signs for power and control were gently enforced by the aggressor. To often we bypass the multiple red flags on the way.
We will wear colored glasses to keep the fantasy of romance alive. In inedible that physical or some other abuse proceeds. All too often as a sign of control, the victim has to choose between family and friends or the abuser.
It took some time to realize; I was the prey in the spiderweb and I had no way out. I somehow relinquished my power to him. Don't Relinquish Your Power!